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PART 2 - Page 2 of 34
Two Very Important Questions about Homosexuality

A Basic Definition of Homosexuality
Is Everybody a Bisexual?  Bisexuality: The Kinsey Scale and The Klein Sexuality Grid

Question 1: Is homosexuality a sin?
Answer: No.
Homosexuality is not a choice. How do I know that?  My personal life experience as a bisexual screams that reality to me every day of my life.  Homosexuality is like left-handedness. It is a given. Therefore, it is no more of a sin than heterosexuality is. Both homosexuals and heterosexuals live by the same God given rules. Homosexuality is a normal, if minority variation within God's original blessing. God doesn’t create people in his own image that are virtually automatically assigned to hell.  God doesn't make junk. 

Question 2: Can two people of the same sex live in a committed, monogamous loving relationship with the blessing of God?
Answer: Yes, of course they can. 
Remember that homosexual couples are simply two people who love each other unselfishly. Love that is the real thing can never be wrong.  Click Here tor read more on this issue.

First, I want to define what we're talking about when we use the words, homosexual, bisexual and heterosexual. Then hang on as you continue on to Page 3 and I’ll take you through the reasoning process that took me to the above answers. But we have to go back to the beginning and see how the majority of the organized church has gotten it all wrong.


The Complexity of Sexual Orientation
The Definitions from Wikipedia

Homosexuality: "Homosexuality refers to attraction or sexual behavior between people of the same sex, and/or to a sexual orientation. As an orientation, homosexuality refers to 'an enduring pattern of or disposition to experience sexual, affectional, or romantic attractions' primarily to people of the same sex; 'it also refers to an individual’s sense of personal and social identity based on those attractions, behaviors expressing them, and membership in a community of others who share them.' " 

Bisexuality: "Bisexuality is a sexual behavior or an orientation involving physical and/or romantic attraction to both males and females.[1] It is one of the three main classifications of sexual orientation, along with a heterosexual and a homosexual orientation. Individuals who lack sexual attraction to either sex are known as asexual. People who have a distinct but not exclusive preference for one sex over the other may also identify themselves as bisexual."

Heterosexuality: "Heterosexuality consists of sexual behavior, practices, and identity predicated on exclusive preference or desire for the opposite sex. As a sexual orientation, heterosexuality refers to 'an enduring pattern of or disposition to experience sexual, affectional, physical or romantic attractions to persons of the opposite sex'; it also refers to 'an individual’s sense of personal and social identity based on those attractions, behaviors expressing them, and membership in a community of others who share them.' "

Homosexuality, bisexuality, and heterosexuality together make up the three main categories of the Northern Europe's cultural model of sexuality and are part of the heterosexual-homosexual continuum.

The Heterosexual-Homosexual Continuum

A heterosexual-homosexual continuum, sometimes referred to as a sexual continuum, is a psychological and philosophical understanding of human sexuality that places sexual preferences on a continuum from heterosexuality to homosexuality. This concept stems from Alfred Kinsey's 1940s surveys of sexuality (which I go into more detail below); significant numbers of Kinsey's subjects reported bisexuality of varying degrees, rather than the strict heterosexual/homosexual division that had been previously assumed. (From Wikipedia- Heterosexual-Homosexual Continuum)

The Models

Is Everybody a Bisexual?  Bisexuality: The Kinsey Scale and The Klein Sexuality Grid
. . . Probably the most important moment in bisexual history occurred in 1948 when Alfred Kinsey published Sexual Behavior in the Human Male and then in 1953 Sexual Behavior in the Human Female.  These books changed everything for two reasons.  First, Kinsey found that homosexuality was much more common than previously thought.  Second, he created an entirely new paradigm of sexual orientation when he proposed the Kinsey scale.  This scale is a number line from 0 through 6; 0 represented exclusively heterosexual and 6 exclusively homosexual.  People can fall anywhere along this continuum, being a "Kinsey 2" or "4" or "1 1/2."  Kinsey had created the present model of bisexuality without every once using the word bisexual. (1)

The Kinsey scale clarified two issues.  First, there is a great variety of sexual orientations.  He said:

The world is not divided into sheep and goats.  Not all things are black, nor all things white.  It is fundamental of taxonomy that nature  rarely deals with discrete categories.  Only the human mind invents such categories and tries to force facts into separate pigeonholes.  The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects.

As with any number line, there are infinite points along the Kinsey scale to choose from.  Kinsey thought sexuality was not an either/or proposition, or even a three-part system, but distinguished by infinite variety.

Second is an implication that perhaps all of us on this continuum are in the same boat.  Heterosexuality isn't primary or held above all "deviant" behaviors?  Straight people are ranked in just the same way as homosexuals?  Perhaps a Kinsey 4.5 is no better or worse than a 1.5.  Revolutionary!  The world has never been the same since.

As helpful as the Kinsey scale is, it is only a crude model of what constitutes a person's sexual orientation.  Kinsey was interested in behavior and attraction, but what if behavior doesn't match well with attraction?  What if people usually enjoy sex with one gender but only fall in love with the other?  What if a person's past doesn't reflect his or her present feelings?  Sexuality is much more complex than 0 through 6. 

The Klein Sexuality Grid
Enter Fritz Klein and the Klein Sexual Orientation Grid [or Klein Sexuality Grid].  As a psychiatrist, researcher, and founder of one of the first bisexual support groups in the country, Klein has unique insights into the complexity of sexuality.  Klein adapted the continuum model of Kinsey, in this case with one being exclusively heterosexual land seven being exclusively homosexual. (1)   For each person, it sets out the seven component variables of sexual orientation, listed as A through G down the left side in the table below. The three columns indicate three different points at which sexual orientation is assessed: the person's past, their present, and their ideal. The person then receives a rating from 1 to 7 for each of the 21 resulting combinations, one rating for each empty box in the chart below. The meanings of the ratings are indicated just below the grid itself. (2)

For Variables A to E:

For Variables F and G:

1 = Other sex only

1 = Heterosexual only

2 = Other sex mostly

2 = Heterosexual mostly

3 = Other sex somewhat more

3 = Heterosexual somewhat more

4 = Both sexes

4 = Hetero/Gay-Lesbian equally

5 = Same sex somewhat more

5 = Gay/Lesbian somewhat more

6 = Same sex mostly

6 = Gay/Lesbian mostly

7 = Same sex only

7 = Gay/Lesbian only

Definitions helpful in using the Klein scale:
Past: Your life up to 12 months ago.
Present: The most recent 12 months
Ideal: What do you think you would eventually like?

The Variables:
Sexual Attraction: To whom are you sexually attracted?

Sexual Behavior: With whom have you actually had sex?

Sexual Fantasies: Whom are your sexual fantasies about? (They may occur during masturbation, daydreaming, as part of real life, or purely in your imagination.)

Emotional Preference: Emotions influence, if not define, the actual physical act of love. Do you love and like only members of the same sex, only members of the other sex, or members of both sexes?

Social Preference: Social preference is closely allied with but often different from emotional preference. With members of which sex do you socialize?

Lifestyle Preference: What is the sexual identity of the people with whom you socialize?

Sexual Identity/Political Identity: How do you think of yourself? / Some people describe their relationship to the rest of society differently than their personal sexual identity. For instance, a woman may have a heterosexual sexual identity, but a lesbian political identity. How do you think of yourself politically?

Note that the Klein Grid takes into consideration the fact that many people change their orientation over time. Where a person is today is not necessarily where she or he was in the past -- or, for that matter, where he or she will be or would like to be in the future. The concept of sexual orientation as an ongoing dynamic process is necessary if we are to understand a person's orientation properly in its entirety. (2) OK, so now you know that your sexual orientation can indeed change over time, but you also need to know that you can't change it.  To read more about this in depth, please click Here

Completing this assessment by ranking each answer ala Kinsey on a 1 - 7 scale gives a total of twenty-one different numbers.  (1)  A more detailed explanation of the Klein Sexuality Grid as compared to the Kinsey Scale is found by Clicking Here.  For a more detailed explanation of the Klein Sexuality Grid by the author himself, please look in Chapter 2 of Dr. Klein's book "The Bisexual Option."

So what I wanted you the reader to take away from all this talk above in regard to these two models for describing human sexuality is that human beings can not separated into black or white categories, either that we're all heterosexuals as many conservative Christians say or that we're all either heterosexual or homosexual.  This latter point of view "is the dualistic view of human sexuality.  They believe in the one-drop rule: a person who is attracted to someone of the same gender, is homosexual.  This viewpoint is very popular with homophobes, neatly dividing the population into 'we normal folks' and 'those sick fags.'  In this view there are no grays, no need or reason for nuance.  Homophobes spend no time differentiating their hatred; they just hate those who are different from  (or in some cases the same as) what they are." (3) Human sexuality is way more complicated than these people want to accept.   Anyway, it's possible that everybody is a bisexual, or not. For further study I recommend Dr. Klein's book mentioned above and/or William El Burleson's book, "Bi-America - Myths, Truths, and Struggles of an Invisible Community."

Click for Page 22 to Continue on with the Non-Religious, Scientific and Medical Argument:
Homosexuality: Nature or Nurture: (Part 1 of 5)
The Proof that Homosexuality is Not a Choice - Test Yourself!
Coming Out in Middle School

Realizing That You're Different From Others, What a Gay or Lesbian Teen Goes Through
I think my Grandpop saved my life
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(1) Burleson, William E. "Bi America-Myths, Truths, and Struggles of an Invisible Community", New York, London, Oxford; Harrington Park Press, 2005, pages 38 and 39.
(2) http://www.bisexual.org/kleingrid.html   
(3) Burleson, William E. "Bi America-Myths, Truths, and Struggles of an Invisible Community", New York, London, Oxford; Harrington Park Press, 2005, page 19.

Click for Page 3 to Continue on the Religious Side of the Argument "Is Homosexuality a Sin?" - Does the Bible Deal with Modern Day Homosexuality? No Same Sex Male Couples Of Similar Ages Did Not Exist In Ancient Times

A Gay Teen Short Story ♂♂
GOD MADE ME THIS WAY by Grant Bentley

Church is so confusing for Zack.  His new pastor preaches nothing but hate and condemnation of gays and lesbians, but no matter how carefully he reads his Bible, he can’t find where it says God hates him.  Will things change when Zach's boyfriend Billy suggests that they all go to his church instead?    Click Here or on the icon to read the story.



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