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PART 2 (page 21 of 34)
What Does The Church Need To Do To Make Things Right With The Homosexual and Bisexual Community?
Gay Marriage and Gays As Leaders In The Church
Achieving and Maintaining An Attitude Of Forgiveness
Cartoon by Danziger - The Case Against Gay Marriage
Making Things Right
It was in the church where the prejudice against gays was born. Therefore, as the all important first step to correcting its long history of censure, exclusion and theological justification for persecution of gay and lesbian people, the church needs to prayerfully examine itself and then repent and ask for forgiveness of its own homophobia. It must undertake the hard work of changing attitudes and expunging ancient and deep prejudices, including public confession of past wrongs against gay people when appropriate. Individual Christians are under a similar obligation if they are to live out the gospel mandate to their gay and lesbian neighbors. Christians should also be vigilant in exposing and countering misinformation regarding homosexuals, particularly when such slander has its origin in supposedly Christian sources. These lies and misinformation have led to the cruel mistreatment and great injustices to gays and lesbians over the centuries. (1)
Repeal Legal Bigotry
In faithfulness to the biblical call to justice for all people, the church should speak publicly for repeal of all laws which make criminal offenses of private, voluntary sex acts between people of legal age, oppose police harassment of homosexuals and speak publicly on behalf of homosexuals in the area of civil rights legislation, including gay marriage. (1)
The Inclusive Christian Church Enthusiastically Invites
Gays and Lesbians To Participate Fully In The Body of Christ
Given the biblical message of God's particular compassion for the outcast and despised, the church should . . be leading the way in affirming, welcoming and serving gay and lesbian people. It should enthusiastically invite them to full participation in the Body of Christ. Christians, by the genuineness and warmth of their welcome of gays and lesbians into their own circles of friendship, association, work, family, worship and neighborhood, should provide a model to the rest of society for the true inclusivity which is a cardinal characteristic of the coming reign of our loving God. In terms of its own leadership, the church should apply the same standards to homosexual candidates for ordination and other church responsibilities that it does to heterosexuals. As the Episcopal Church's Commission on Human Affairs recommended in 1991:
[T]he Church [should] be open to ordaining gay men and lesbians otherwise qualified who display the same integrity in their sexual relationships which we ask of our heterosexual ordinands. (1)
And it must be reported that in line with the above thinking the Rev. V. Gene Robinson was consecrated as the bishop of New Hampshire and the first openly gay prelate [and who was also in a monogamous gay relationship] in the Episcopal Church U.S.A. in 2003. And then on August 21, 2009, the country’s largest Lutheran denomination, the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, voted to allow gay men and lesbians in committed relationships to serve as members of their clergy. So continued progress is being made.
Yes To Gay Marriage
Understanding as it does the true uniting function of human sexuality, the church should also be setting the example for a world too quick to accept functional or hedonistic views of sex by creating Christian structures for supporting committed gay partnerships. This means offering gays and lesbians public blessing for their unions in rites which unapologetically celebrate the Christian significance and moral goodness of these relationships. Indeed, for many gay and lesbian Christians, the question of same-sex marriage is the crucial issue for the church, a point which Bruce Bawer made in his talk entitled Lecture at St. John's Episcopal Cathedral in Denver on September 18, 1994.
. . . . .to be gay and sit in . . . church week after week beside your partner of five or ten or thirty years and hear announcements of weddings and . . . know that the two of you can't be married in the church is to be reminded that you're not really full, equal members.
If gays and lesbians are recognized as "full, equal members" of the Body of Christ, however - as they must be if the church is to be true to itself - then, Bawer concludes, "the only Christian way for the church to respond to the fact of homosexuality and the identicality of homosexual love and commitment to heterosexual love and commitment is [for it] to bless gay marriages and allow the ordination of openly gay clergy." Anything less than such active inclusivity it is argued, constitutes a refusal to heed the call of Christ and a rejection of the church's role as the preeminent sign of divinely-constituted community in a divided world. (1)
How not to react when your child tells you he's gay - Dramatic live recording - YouTube Plus A Gay Dad's Beautiful Response to the Rejection
A Note From Gary Lynn: The Hardest Thing For Me
Now the last thing for me to do here on this page is to admit to you my readers of my biggest failure in this entire project; To be able to have or offer up an attitude of forgiveness for all the people in the world past and present who have caused and are causing us so much pain, destruction and death. I don't have to wait for them to repent first and ask for forgiveness as was mentioned above. Of my own free will, apart from whatever the other side does, I can forgive. Yes, turning the other cheek to these overly-rigid religious conservatives while standing up for what I know to be the truth is really hard. But I believe I must continue to strive to do this if I intend to wear the label of Christian. Sometimes I get carried away with my pointed digs at these people I disagree with so much, but on a regular basis I just have to take some deep breaths and get some loving Godly perspective on the whole matter. And what could be better than to use Jesus' own words from the cross as an example of my attitude: And Jesus said, 'Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.' (Luke 23:34) An eye for an eye does feel good at times, but it is only temporarily satisfying and has long term serious negative consequences.
Click Here or on the image to take you to The Campaign for Love & Forgiveness. This is a community engagement initiative that encourages people to bring love and forgiveness into the heart of individual and community life.
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(1) Holben, L. R. What Christians Think about Homosexuality - Six Representative Viewpoints, North Richland Hills, Texas, BIBAL Press, 1999, page 180-181.
(2) Adapted from a study liturgy circulated in the Episcopal Diocese of California, 1986.
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A Gay Teen Short Story ♂♂
Church is so confusing for Zack. His new pastor preaches nothing but hate and condemnation of gays and lesbians, but no matter how carefully he reads his Bible, he can’t find where it says God hates him. Will things change when Zach's boyfriend Billy suggests that they all go to his church instead? Click Here or on the icon to read the story.
Click for Page 22 - Homosexuality: Nature or Nurture: (Part 1 of 5)
The Proof that Homosexuality is Not a Choice - Test Yourself!
Coming Out in Middle School
Realizing That You're Different From Others, What a Gay or Lesbian Teen Goes Through
I think my Grandpop saved my life
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The Anti-Gay Religious Right's Really Cruel and Idiotic Argument
Their Message to a Gay Person is: Be alone. Live alone. Die alone.
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