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A Tragic, Heartbreaking And Unnecessary Suicide
"Prayers for Bobby" - The Book And The Lifetime Movie

THE BOOK AND MOVIE THAT THE RELIGIOUS GAY-BASHERS HAVE NO ANSWER FOR  -  They can't explain why homosexual, bisexual and transgender teenagers and young adults are consistently from 2 to 14 times more likely to attempt suicide when compared to their heterosexual peers.  And they definitely can't accept their primary role in causing these horrific statistics. (1)
In an award winning book “Prayers for Bobby: A Mother's Coming to Terms with the Suicide of Her Gay Son”- Leroy Aarons (See boxes below and the Bibliography on page 31 or click here), tells the true story and ultimate human tragedy of how a mother, Mary Griffith, came to terms with the suicide of her 20 year-old gay son, Bobby (June 24, 1963 - August 27, 1983).


"Before you echo Amen in your home or place of worship, think and remember.


A child is listening."


Mary Griffith


Bobby Griffith grew up as the innocent, happy and intelligent all-American boy with an obedient and gentle spirit. But as he grew into adolescence he discovered that he was attracted to other teenage boys his age or older and not girls. And because Bobby was raised as a devout Christian and was taught that being gay was one of the worst sins imaginable, he believed that he was defective, that he was going to burn in Hell for eternity and that he was unworthy of God’s love. He was very aware of his church’s teachings because he was very active in the Walnut Creek Presbyterian Church in Walnut Creek, California along with his brother, 2 sisters and mother, Mary, who taught Sunday school. Unable to handle the irresolvable daily struggles and conflict with both his family and his religion, Bobby jumped off a bridge onto a busy highway in front of a large tractor trailer in Portland, Oregon on August 27, 1983 and was killed instantly due to massive internal injuries. His detailed personal diaries are filled with diatribes of self-hate because he believed that as a homosexual he was a worthless human being and innately evil because he was a tool of the Devil. He believed these things because that was what his church taught. He thought that he had no reason to live because he wasn’t allowed to love who he was attracted to and was damned no matter what he did.  For example, in the spring of 1979, near his 16th birthday, Bobby wrote the following in his diary:


I can't ever let anyone find out that I'm not straight. It would be so humiliating. My friends would hate me. They might even want to beat me up. And my family? I've overheard them. They've said they hate gays, and even God hates gays, too. Gays are bad, and God sends bad boys to hell. It really scares me when they are talking about me." (2)

The grieving Mary Griffith was convinced that she was very much to blame for her son’s incomprehensible death. Because of her constant and incessant preaching to him of the evilness of homosexuality, by continually quoting a stream of bible verses at him in a campaign to convince him to “change” from being gay to straight, which she later learned was not possible, and by being openly ashamed of him, she believed that in her ignorance she had unknowingly helped push him over the edge. She came to believe that she had sacrificed her child in the name of rigid, uncaring religious tradition when all she should have done was tell him that he was perfectly all right just as he was. After his death her beloved church turned its back on the surviving family and was unable to help them explain what went wrong or offer much comfort. She then reexamined her theology and beliefs about homosexuality and was herself radically transformed when she educated herself about the truth of what it means to be gay or lesbian.

Bobby's Revealing Diaries Have Given Him a Voice in Death He Never Had in Life
Mary Griffith's reexamination of her theology consisted of two very important things that she did after she read her son’s revealing diaries. The first was to find out from the minister of the local Concord Metropolitan Community Church, Larry Whitsell, that there was an alternative and much more compassionate, logical and accurate view of the teachings in the Bible which accepted her gay son just the way he was, that he was neither defective nor dammed and that God never would have wanted him to try to change himself into a heterosexual. The second thing was to get to know the members of the local P-FLAG organization [*] and to sit in on their meetings and listen to the heart wrenching stories of these families who have a loved one who is gay or lesbian. Since then she has been a national crusader for gay and lesbian youth, doing her best to right the terrible wrongs that society and the organized church have inflicted on this stigmatized and denigrated minority.

Click Here for What Parents of Gay and Lesbian Teens need to Know about Suicide - What Are The Warning Signs?

[*] In the United States, PFLAG is a national organization and support group of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays and in Spain, AMPGIL - Asociación de Madres y Padres de Gays y Lesbianas.


The Bible and Homosexuality: Why I Left College and Spent Two Years Finding Out What the Scriptures Really Say  (Article plus 2 VIDEOS-Trailer 4 minutes + Presentation 1 hour) by Matthew Vines-President, The Reformation Project
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"For decades now, David Gushee has earned the reputation as America's leading evangelical ethicist. In this book, Changing Our Mind, he admits that he has been wrong on the LGBT issue. He explains why he has changed his mind and heart. Not only is David Gushee's work deep, thoughtful and brilliant; and not only is David philosophically and theologically careful and astute; he is also refreshingly clear and understandable by 'common people' who know neither philosophical nor theological mumbo jumbo." writes Brian D. McLaren, author and theologian. Published February, 2015


"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss


Prayers for Bobby: A Mother's Coming to Terms with the Suicide of Her Gay Son”,

by Leroy Aarons, HarperSanFrancisco, San Francisco,1996

As described above, this is the book that the religious gay-bashers have no answer for.  They have no believable explanation for Bobby Griffith's suicide and all the other gay suicides over the centuries due to their hateful doctrines. There is only one possible reason and they don't want to hear it.  That their message of rejection and intolerance drove Bobby to choose death over life.  Leroy Aarons has performed a major public service with the publication of this groundbreaking and transformational book.


"I hope this book will help religious people everywhere face their complicity in the evil way gay and lesbian children have been treated.  Perhaps then the religious world can repent, apologize, and welcome all our children into the love of God that we proclaim." - The Rt. Rev. John S. Spong, Bishop of Newark and author of Rescuing the Bible from Fundamentalism.


If you think you might be Gay, Bisexual or Transgender and are thinking:  "I need help. I can't keep going on like I am. The pain is becoming too much.  People are starting to question me and lying is no longer an option . . . . . ."

Then Click HERE to get help now.  This is the link to the Trevor Project. The Trevor Helpline at 866-4-U-TREVOR or 866-488-7386 is a free and confidential service (USA only) that offers hope and someone to talk to, 24/7. The Trevor Helpline's trained counselors will listen and understand without judgment.  They operate the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth. If you or a friend are feeling lost or alone call The Trevor Helpline. Or just click on to their link above for more information. There is hope, there is help, NOW.

Click Here to gain access to one of the most complete Internet Resource Websites on Gay and Bisexual Male Suicide problems and related issues (created by Pierre Tremblay). (1)

More than 2 out of 5 Gay and Transgender Teens think about suicide often, and 1 in 3 have attempted it.  Click Here To See the Video about Joining the We Give A Damn.org Campaign to Reduce the incidence of Suicide by Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Youth.    

 Prayers for Bobby - the Movie - on Lifetime (first aired Jan. 24, 2009)  
 Click the Promo Image to See the Movie NOW on YouTube in 9 Parts (ignore the Spanish Subtitles, ha-ha)


 "Heart wrenching", "Kicks you in the emotional gut", "Bring three hankies", "Sigourney Weaver could be Emmy bound"
 - the critics.

 Sigourney Weaver delivers an Emmy-worthy performance on Lifetime as Mary Griffith. According to Weaver, meeting the
 real Mary and her family in her home in Northern California helped her to encapsulate the character.

 "It was very important to me. You know, the reason -- I mean, the family wanted this story told. They wanted to share it
 with as many families as possible so that other families, devout families, don't make the same mistakes that they did," she
 said. "You know, she's a wonderful woman. She was very candid with me. And I think it helped me."


 "I have to say that I never felt judgmental of Mary. She meant the best for her son. That's what's so frightening. And as
 a mother, I totally connected with her because we all want our children to be safe and to make safe choices. As far as
 she was concerned, this was a choice. And I think she didn't understand that this was part of who Bobby was. She
 thought he was choosing a life, and she readily admits that she was incredibly ignorant," Weaver explained.

 Click here to read more about and watch the interview Sigourney Weaver did on The Early Show on CBS where she
 talks about how important playing this part meant to her. Click here to read a Review by the L. A. Times and reader
 comments and posts.  Click here or on the image to see the promotion trailer for the film. 

Proof that Homosexuality is Not a Choice - Try the Test On Yourself!!
So Click Here to see what the test involves and also see the scientific and medical evidence that confirms that homosexuality is not a choice.  Homosexuality: Nature or Nurture? (Part 1 of 5).  Also On The  Same Page "Realizing That You're Different From Others, What a Gay or Lesbian Teen Goes Through"

Click Here To Read More True, Tragic and Unnecessary Gay Youth Suicide Stories - What Can You Do To Help?

How not to react when your child tells you he's gay - Dramatic live recording - YouTube Plus A Gay Dad's Beautiful Response to the Rejection

The Forsaken: A Rising Number of Homeless Gay Teens Are Being Cast Out by Religious Families - While life gets better for millions of gays, the number of homeless LGBT teens - many cast out by their religious families - quietly keeps growing. By Alex Morris | September 3, 2014

It was in the church where the prejudice against gays was born
How incredibly sad and tragic the above true account is because it never should have happened. And the same could be said for the hundreds of thousands and probably more of other gays and lesbians over the centuries who have also taken their own lives because of feelings of self-hate, shame, depression and hopelessness caused by the toxic attitudes of the organized church and society in general. And as you will see in this website, it was in the church where the prejudice against gays was born, nurtured and promoted for all these centuries. And it doesn’t have to be this way. After many months of writing and 4 years of praying about and researching this controversial issue, this extremely personal report and opinion is what my life comes down to, the most important legacy that I will leave to my family, friends and anyone with a loving heart and an open mind searching for answers about homosexuality.


The Story That Grabbed My Heart - "Beyond The Rain" by Grasshopper - A Gay Teen Love Story - Overcoming The Barriers .  Or Click Here
This is the story of Billy Carmedy and Aaron Sorensen.  It’s tough enough to be a straight boy in a small town high school looking for the love of your life. But at least your possible loves are all out in the open. It’s much, much tougher when you’re a 17 year-old gay boy, part of only 10% or less of the population and your possible loves are all in hiding, just as you are, due to fear of being socially ostracized, laughed at and condemned by your peers. Add to this mix the complete rejection of Aaron by his parents due to religious bigotry when he trustingly came out to them and you have the challenging but beautiful story of how two personable and intelligent gay boys circuitously find each other and somehow survive.

Click Here for Gary Lynn's Recommended Sites for Dealing with Homophobia and Discrimination Against Gays in Our Society

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(1) Click Here and Here to see the detailed results of over 100 studies showing that homosexual, bisexual and transgender youth and young adults consistently are about from 2 to 14 times more likely to attempt suicide when compared to their heterosexual peers. And here is an example of just one of these studies: Results of the 2007 Youth Risk Behavior Survey of Massachusetts High School Students (Click Here to see it) showed that students who described themselves as gay, lesbian, or bisexual were significantly more likely than their heterosexual peers to report attacks, suicide attempts and drug and alcohol use. When compared to heterosexual peers, this group was:
● Over four times more likely to have attempted suicide in the past year
● Over three times more likely to miss school in the past month because of feeling unsafe
● Over four times more likely to have been injured or threatened with a weapon at school
(2)  Aarons, Leroy, “Prayers for Bobby: A Mother's Coming to Terms with the Suicide of Her Gay Son”, San Francisco, HarperSanFrancisco, 1996, page 57

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A Gay Teen Short Story ♂♂
GOD MADE ME THIS WAY by Grant Bentley

Church is so confusing for Zack.  His new pastor preaches nothing but hate and condemnation of gays and lesbians, but no matter how carefully he reads his Bible, he can’t find where it says God hates him.  Will things change when Zach's boyfriend Billy suggests that they all go to his church instead?    Click Here or on the icon to read the story.


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